Tip Tuesday: How to be Gentle with Yourself


Happy February friends! We have made it to the second month of 2018. As we continue into the New Year, I’m sure many of us are still going strong on our New Year’s resolutions. What were your resolutions this year? Did you vow to eat healthier? Work out more? Get a promotion? Or even start a new business venture? Whatever your goals may be for the year, today’s post is to remember to be gentle with yourself and to keep your goals simple. Let me tell you why…

Sometimes, in the midst of goal setting and trying to be our best selves, we end up putting too much unnecessary pressure on ourselves. When we put extreme pressure on ourselves it is usually a recipe for burnout. Burnout is HUMAN. Being perfect and setting unreasonably high goals and standards to complete in one day, week, or month is not.  It’s unhealthy for us to want to rock our world and upheave our old habits in the blink of an eye. These changes take time. Slow, subtle time. It won’t be perfect. There will be slips along the way – but the trick is to allow yourself grace and to be gentle with yourself.

One of my favorite authors, Kris Carr, says it best, “Small steps, consistently taken, add up to big changes. So if you’re itching for a wellness breakthrough, I encourage you to test drive a few simple shifts to your self-care routine, rather than sweeping changes that overwhelm you.”

In Kris’ blog post titled, “6 Self-Care Tips for the Gentle Soul,” she explains a similar sentiment: to let yourself be human and to seek progress over perfection. In her post she offers these 6 self-care tips:

Start your day with introspection

Start your morning slow with a few minutes to yourself. Whether that be 10 minutes of making coffee by yourself in the kitchen or taking out the family dog in the backyard alone – take 10 minutes of introverted time to adjust to the day.

Nourish your body first

Kris states that, “what you eat is who you become,” and believes in nourishing your body first thing in the morning.  Reach for nutritious and meaningful meals – not just sugary, quick-fixes.

Talk to your cravings

Kris says that your food cravings aren’t always about the cravings themselves. “Sometimes they’re a plea from your higher self. Do you need more sweetness in your life? A time out from stress? Some love? An apology? What’s the craving attempting to fill for you? And what could you do to satisfy that itch (and your soul) instead?” Sometimes cravings are actually spiritual lessons that we are putting off with food distractions.

Practice The Daily Ten

Move for 10 minutes a day. Whether that be jumping jacks, dancing in your living room, or a brisk walk around the block – you just feel better when you move.

Cultivate what nourishes you BEYOND food

What is something that will bring you joy and nourishment on a spiritual level this week? Beyond food. Is it helping others? A hobby? Do that.

Have compassion for yourself

Here is what Kris says about this, “unfortunately, suffering is a natural part of life. We can’t avoid it. The trick is to acknowledge your suffering and then bear-hug it with compassion. Compassion is the medicine. Once you apply compassion you’ll be able to take the lessons and move through the discomfort. Residual ouchies may remain, but they won’t harden you. We all have scars. They give us character.”

I hope this post was helpful for you and brings you peace in your resolutions for 2018.